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WHAT IS A CONVERSATION?
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When a man and a woman talk to
each other, we say they're having a
"conversation."

But what does that mean?

Well... to me... a "conversation" is a way
for people to share ideas with each other.
To share emotions. To share input.

It's the only way I can find out about your
life, and you can find out about mine.

But this "exchanging information" can come
in a variety of forms. We can exchange information
on feelings... experiences... problems...
almost anything!

So then...

When we talk to each other, what is
the goal?

Well, for men, the goal is usually finding
out information. Exchanging tips... Fixing problems...
We use conversation to collect and give away
information.

That's why you'll see men crowded around
a bar somewhere swapping stories, and
then talking about how to solve problems.

For men - conversation has a goal.

Women, however, use conversation to
bond. To relate. That's why you'll see
women on the phone with each other
for HOURS. And they'll swap stories
that are related to each other.

For women - conversation itself is the
goal.

For example: If a man tells his buddies
he just broke up with his girlfriend, they
may tell him he needs to find a new girl...
or that he should take some time to
himself...

His buddies will give him emotional
support... and then... help him fix his
problem.

Now, if a woman breaks up with her
boyfriend, her friends will tell stories
of their past break ups. Sharon will
talk about how she got cheated on.
Dianna will talk about her loser ex-
boyfriend...

Her friends will give her emotional support
... and then... keep giving her emotional
support.

They do this by relating. Sharing stories
of similar events in their lives.

That's why you hear women saying,
"He gets me so well" or "He knows
exactly where I'm coming from"

Instead of "He fixes all of my problems"
or "He's such a fix-it man"

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FOR WOMEN: CONVERSATION ITSELF
IS THE GOAL OF CONVERSATION
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So when the average man walks up to
the average woman, what happens?

Well, he starts talking to her. He shares
a story, she shares a story... and then...
He comments on her story.

Maybe he tells her how it could be better.
Maybe he tells her what he liked about it.

For example:

Woman: "And last week, I went to the beach. We
all got sunburned!"

Man: "Yeah, you gotta wear sunblock. That sun's
brutal"

When the woman REALLY just wanted
him to say:

Woman: "And last week, I went to the beach.
We all got sunburned!"

Man: "Tell me about it. I was outside the other
day for about 5 minutes and was bright red by
the time I got back inside"

Much better!

YOU may not notice the difference... but...
Women will!

And women will notice the difference QUICKLY!
In fact, making this one little shift in your conversation
(going from goal oriented to relating) will make
you MUCH more attractive to women.

But how, right?

Actually, it's easier than you could ever imagine....

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THREADING: THE KEY TO HAVING
LONG, STRONG CONVERSATIONS
WITH WOMEN:
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Have you ever seen someone knit or
sew?

If not - go YouTube a video, so you can
follow the metaphor...

But basically, when someone knits or
sews something, they take a "thread"
or piece of yarn and weave it into
another thread.

Back and forth... In and out... Around and
around... Until one or two threads turn
into a sock. A hat. A scarf.

Something beautiful... and bigger
than the threads that made it.

It's the same with conversation.

When you talk with a woman, you're
just exchanging sentences. I say something,
you say something back. On and on it
goes.

But at the end of the night - hopefully -
she looks back on your "conversation"
as this powerful, attractive thing you two
made together.

AS LONG AS YOU DIDN'T LET IT
DIE OUT!

So... like knitting... conversation is
made up of simple, easy components
WOVEN together to make something
beautiful.

And when you think of it that way,
keeping a conversation going
FOREVER is extremely simple.

All you need is an easy skill I call:
"THREADING"

"THREADING" is taking a piece of her
sentence, and using it to make a sentence
of your own.

^^ That sounds way more complicated
than it is. I'll show you a quick example,
so you see how easy it is...

WOMAN: "I love going to the beach. It's
so relaxing"

MAN: "The beach is my favorite. I love the
sand"

-or-

MAN: "Yeah, if you kick back and grab a
towel, you practically fall asleep!"

-or-

MAN: "What do you like about the beach?"

-or-

MAN: "How are your sand castle skills?"

So... How did I choose these sentences?
Well, it was really quite easy. Let's look
at the woman's sentence, one more
time:

WOMAN: "I love going to the beach. It's
so relaxing"

In that sentence, there are three (or more)
"Threads." These are parts of the sentence
you can talk about.

In her sentence, these threads are:

* I love...

* the beach...

* so relaxing...

So YOU can talk about:

* things you love...

* the beach...

* ways you relax on the beach...

... And... As long as you give her
threads to work with, she'll keep
the conversation going on her
end.

Let's take another example sentence:
"Yesterday, I hit Harry"

What are the "threads" in this sentence?
Well, we have...

* Yesterday...

* I hit...

* Harry...

So, you can talk about:

* Stuff that happened Yesterday...

* Times you've seen people get hit...

* Harry...

And as long as you stayed on one of those
"threads" - you could talk forever.

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THE DEFINITION OF THREADING:
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From the examples above, you can
guess the definition of THREADING,
right?

Well, the definition is something like:
"Taking something she says, and then
relating to it with a sentence of your own"

So... If she says: "I love this bar. Me and
my friends always come together"

You can talk about:

* This bar

* Things you love

* Your friends

* Her friends

* Things you and your friends do
together

So you could say:

"Yeah, it's a cool place. Like a laser-light
show!"

-or-

"I know what you mean. I've got this
blues bar downtown I absolutely love"

-or-

"It's great you have such close friends.
I couldn't live without mine"

-or-

"Your friends seem like a great group
of girls. How do you know each other?"

-or-

"Me and my friends have this spot
downtown you'd absolutely love"

... You see how easy it is?

And imagine what you can do,
when you're in a real conversation!

You can take ANY of those responses
above, and pick threads out of them,
and keep the conversation going.

Just pick a thread, relate and then
wait for her reply.

Pick a thread, relate and then
wait for her reply.

Pick a thread, relate and then
wait for her reply.

And while you're having this long,
intriguing conversation, you can
touch her... escalate on her physically...
use role-playing... isolate her...

... You literally have FULL reign,
because you don't have to worry
about the words coming out of
your mouth! :-)

***** THINGS TO DO ******

1) PRACTICE THREADING - It's easy:
Pick a thread, relate, wait for her to
respond. Use that technique, and
your conversations can NEVER
"die out"

2) APPROACH A NEW WOMAN: Why not?
The weather's beautiful, and you've got
a whole new tool in your toolkit. Go use it!

3) KEEP YOUR EYES OUT for info on
Multiple Relationships, in the future!